Relationships are hard. It can be difficult to keep the love alive in your relationship and keep it growing. Maybe you and your partner aren’t on the same wavelength anymore and things aren’t working the same as they used to. Perhaps you’ve been through a tough period and your partner hasn’t been there for you when you needed them most. Whatever the case may be, when you and your partner can’t seem to find common ground, it can be difficult to feel much love for the one you’re with again.
The truth is, if you want to keep your relationship fresh and grow it from where it is now to where you both want it to be, you should be looking for ways to love again. The hard truth is that we’re all going to have to work at it. Not everyone is going to end up in the same place, and if your partner isn’t willing to work at things, you should be open to the possibility that it might take some time for you and them to rekindle the love you had for each other in the first place.
The first step is admitting that you’re not feeling it anymore
The first, and most important step is admitting that you’re not feeling it anymore.
If your partner can’t recognize the change in your love for them, then you need to recognize that there might be a problem. If the problem is mutual, then hopefully they will find a way to work on it and come back to what they were feeling in the first place. But if they are unwilling or unresponsive, then it might just take some time for you to rekindle the flame yourself.
Focus on your partner, not the things that aren’t working
As difficult as it might be, focusing on the good is one of the best ways to love again. Start by thinking about all the qualities your partner has that you love and start looking for signs of those qualities in them now. Maybe your partner is generous and loving, even if they don’t seem to care about what you’re going through. Maybe they’re patient with you when you’re stressed out or tired. They can build their confidence back up, too. These are all things that a partner should do for their significant other in order to keep the love alive in a relationship and grow it from where it is now.
Don’t focus on the things that aren’t working, either, like how your partner hasn’t been able to meet your sexual needs or maybe they haven’t been around as much lately because they just don’t have time for you anymore. Instead, think about what they have done right (or at least let them know) and show appreciation for that.
If you want to get back into loving the person you’re with again, it’s important not to focus on any of these negative things – instead try to recognize all of their positive qualities and appreciate them. It will help put some space between yourself and the problems you have so that you can see life through new eyes again.
Keep talking, no matter how uncomfortable it feels
When you feel like your partner isn’t willing to work at things, it can be tempting to give up on the relationship completely. But, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to be there for your partner 24/7. You shouldn’t just give up on a relationship with someone because they aren’t willing or able to keep things going. If you want to keep your relationship fresh and hear their voice again, then you need to remember that sometimes what sounds uncomfortable is worth doing. Sometimes being honest about how you feel is the only way for both of you to get better together in your relationship.
Be open to the idea that you might need to change your outlook
The best way to make your relationship better is to be open to the idea that you might need to change your outlook on things. Maybe you’re feeling a little bitter about the relationship, and this is something you need to work on, too. If there are things you know need to change in order for the relationship to thrive again, then do those things.
If you want love in your life again, stop looking for it in all the wrong places. Instead of trying to find someone that will just give it back no matter what and never ask anything of you, start asking yourself what can I do better so I can show my partner how much I love them?
Start loving yourself first and then start showing that love outwardly. When you begin loving yourself again, it will make everything easier because it will motivate you to find ways that help improve your own life instead of solely focusing on the other person’s needs.
Don’t focus on your insecurities with your partner
When you feel like your partner isn’t the person you fell in love with, it can be hard to find the love you lost. Don’t focus on what has changed. Instead, focus on what hasn’t changed (yet). If your partner is still treating you well, don’t worry about the things that bother you. Focus on how they are there for you now and let that make up for the things that bothered you before.
Try something new and unpredictable
So, how do you find love again? It’s not going to be easy, but one way is to take something new and unpredictable into your relationship. This can include anything from trying a new activity or even just moving forward with life as it is now. Allowing yourself and your partner to explore new things together will help keep the love alive.
Help your partner understand where they’re coming from
If you’re struggling to love your partner again, start by trying to help them understand where they are coming from.
You might be frustrated because your partner isn’t doing the things that you want them to do, but those things might not be what they want either. So, start by asking your partner what is it that they need from you in order for you to love them again? The answer can be anything from time and reassurance to affection and understanding. Maybe they just need someone who will listen to them when they’re having a hard time. People often change their opinions on relationships after going through difficult times or getting hurt, so if your partner is being stubborn and refusing to change their perspective on things, try talking about what happened and how it made them feel in the past.
Do the work to try and build some trust again
To go back to the example of your partner not being there for you when you needed them, that’s not a great sign. If you want to be able to love again, it might take some time. But don’t stop trying just because your partner is having a tough time. You should be willing and able to do the work necessary to rebuild trust and create the love you want in your relationship. One way that you can do this is by using positive reinforcement with your partner. Try doing things like buying them flowers or cooking their favorite meal as an act of love and see how they might react differently than if you were critical or focused on what they did wrong.
